Someone watching?
Hit the ESC key at any time to hide this site. Privacy Tips
Call 1-844-762-8483

Or Text 24/7

If you send a text, you will immediately receive a response notification that you will be texted back from a secondary number.
Standard text rates may apply.
Your information will be kept anonymous and confidential.

Love Languages For December

by StrongHearts Native Helpline

The holiday vibe is buzzing, the shopping carts bumping and with each day of December, the pressure of the holidays is mounting. This year, instead of stressing out about the holidays and gift giving, think about the many ways you can speak the love language of your partner - that for the most part comes free of charge.

Thank him later, because Gary Chapman, the author of “The 5 Love Languages. The Secret to Love that Lasts,” narrowed love languages down to just five so it shouldn’t be too hard to figure out which one speaks volumes to your partner.

In no particular order, the five languages include: Words of Affirmation, Quality Time, Acts of Service, Physical Touch and Receiving Gifts. Instead of breaking the bank, fill up the love tank to please your partner.

Words of Affirmation: Ask yourself, “how many birthday cards, bouquets of flowers or any sort of gift that comes with a message telling your partner that you love them?” If he or she saves anything with “words of affirmation” or expressed appreciation, filling up a partner's love tank might start with a compliment. Don’t hesitate to pick up the pen, buy a card or handwrite a message straight from the heart.

Quality Time: Does your partner complain that you work too much? Do you travel for work and leave your partner to take care of the daily chores, driving the kids to school or to participate in sports? This could mean that filling up their love tank would mean spending quality time with your partner. Mark your calendar that no matter what, it’s date night with your partner. Or, bring home pizza for dinner so you can spend more time talking about how your day went.

Acts of Service: Do something - anything! - that helps your partner at home. You may think a stay at home mom or dad is an easy job, but you would be surprised at the relentless demands of everyday life. Do the dishes, take out the trash, make the bed, wash the car or go grocery shopping. There are so many things that can be done to fill up your partner's love tank when you speak their love language.

Physical Touch: Would you describe your partner as having a personality that is clingy or distant and is their vibe warm or cold? When your partner’s love language is physical touch, let the love begin with a nice hug - a long hug. He or she may have been waiting for a long time.

Gift Giving: Don’t wait for a birthday or a holiday to give your partner a gift. Gifts don’t have to be expensive. Often, when your partner’s love language is gift giving - a single rose or a small bouquet of flowers from the grocery store can be really cheap - especially in the spring when the tulips and daffodils are abundant. If you want to buy them something more expensive - the sky's the limit (just don’t buy a gym membership).

These love languages may seem insignificant - but the author has counseled marriages long enough to see a pattern and successfully prescribe a love language used to fill up the love tank between intimate partners.

Love languages are mutual and reciprocal, but more often than not - love languages are different between couples. Love is a choice. It does not involve manipulation or coercion, control or abuse. It takes work to maintain a healthy relationship and learning to speak your partner’s love language can help.

Resources Resources

More from the press room....

StrongHearts Native Helpline Commends the Supreme Court's Decision to Maintain Gun Control Law Further Protecting Domestic Violence Victims and Survivors
StrongHearts Advocacy Critical In Indian Country
StrongHearts Celebrates Seven Years of Advocacy
Vital Funding Increases Culturally Appropriate Support and Advocacy
StrongHearts Receives $100,000 Giving Tuesday Grant from San Manuel Band of Mission Indians
StrongHearts Honors Native American Heritage Month
StrongHearts Announces New Positions
StrongHearts Native Helpline: Six Years of Evolution
ICWA Upheld By SCOTUS Despite Claims of Reverse Discrimination
StrongHearts Supports Family Violence Prevention and Services Improvement Act
StrongHearts Embraces Blue Campaign Partnership
StrongHearts Raises Elder Abuse Awareness
StrongHearts Celebrates Six Year Anniversary
StrongHearts Responds To Gun Violence
StrongHearts Stands With The Black Community
Women's Right To Safety Denied
January Is National Slavery and Human Trafficking Prevention Month
Stalking Awareness Month Aims To Educate
Roe v. Wade: Our Work Is Not Done
StrongHearts Native Helpline Issues DVAM Statement
Impacts of the Roe v. Wade Decision
Two Donations Support StrongHearts Native Helpline
Showing Up in Support of Indigenous 2S+/LGBTQ+ Survivors for Pride Month
StrongHearts Native Helpline Publishes State Reports on Intimate Partner Violence Impacting Native Americans and Alaska Natives
StrongHearts Native Helpline Honors Our Missing and Murdered Indigenous Relatives on May 5
Supporting Indigenous Survivors and Advocates for Sexual Assault Awareness Month
StrongHearts Native Helpline Statement on the Violence Against Women Act of 2022
StrongHearts Native Helpline Observes Five-Year Anniversary with more than 20,000 Contacts
StrongHearts Native Helpline Welcomes Three Tribal Advocacy Programs
February Is Teen Dating Violence Awareness Month
Joint Statement: Teen Dating Violence Awareness Month
Stalking Awareness Month Statement
StrongHearts Native Helpline Announces New Board of Directors
Native American Heritage Month 2021 Statement
StrongHearts Native Helpline Becomes Independent Organization
Joint Indigenous Organizations Statement About the Gabby Petito Case
Indigenous Advocacy Organizations Issue Joint Statement in Support of Survivors of Violence for Domestic Violence Awareness Month
StrongHearts Native Helpline Statement for 2021 Domestic Violence Awareness Month
StrongHearts Native Helpline Releases One Year Sexual Violence Advocacy Report
StrongHearts Native Helpline Launches Project in Michigan
Assistant Director Position Open at StrongHearts Native Helpline
StrongHearts Native Helpline Releases Chat Advocacy One-Year Report
Call for Justice is Answered by New MMIW Unit
StrongHearts Native Helpline Launches Text Advocacy
StrongHearts Native Helpline Marks Four Year Anniversary
StrongHearts Native Helpline Announces Launch of 24/7 Operations
StrongHearts Native Helpline Receives 10,000th Call
New Tribal Division Speaks To Needs Of Tribal Nations
StrongHearts Native Helpline receives 2020 Heroes In Health National Impact Award From National Indian Health Board
Native Advocacy Organizations Release Joint Statement Recognizing Domestic Violence Awareness Month This October
StrongHearts Native Helpline Honors October as Domestic Violence Awareness Month
SCOTUS Affirms Reservation Upholds Jurisdiciton to Protect Native Women
Stacking Up The Numbers
International Day Against Homophobia Commemorated
StrongHearts Native Helpline Announces Addition of Online Chat Sessions with Advocates